Common Sexual-related transitions

The sexual issue is a profoundly common in relationships and often manifests through distress, agony and suffering. The sexual concerns and issues of human beings often change throughout their life cycle which includes single adulthood, early marriage life, parenthood, divorce or separation and older adulthood.

In the early adulthood when a man or woman is single, the sex is an essential part of the relationships x. As noted by Shadbolt (2009), at this stage, men and women often engage erotically charged and high emotional sexual experiences. If a person is not in a relationship at this stage, they may end up engaging in escort services, visiting massage parlors and sometimes masturbation. At this stage, the lady or man may often be engaged in several sexual relationships and if they fail to have their sexual desires fulfilled, they often fantasized about previous sexual experiences.


Another common concern that experts and therapists note about this group is the fact that they are highly susceptible to become victims of internet porn due to a high desire to fulfil the sexual desire that they are feeling (Shadbolt, 2009). The sexual expectations of both men and women when they are single are often high. For instance, a single lady from a relationship where her sexual couple experienced ejaculation problems and erection problems would expect better performance from a potential sexual couple.

Once the single couple have committed to a long time relationship, their sexual concerns change dramatically. From a high erotically charged sexual experience to a decreased sexual frequency and sometimes it may results to an increased emotional conflict. At this stage the concerns of the ladies shift from sexual matters to family matters. This causes them to have lesser sexual experiences. The concern at this stage if for a more satisfying sexual style to benefit both the lady and the man. If not well handled, the shift may result in a blame and counter blame cycle which may lead to a breakup of the relationship. The couple enjoy intercourse at high levels and not whenever the man erects.

Once a couple get married and become parents, there sexual priorities shift. At first, the couple engage in wild sex. According to Stinson (2009), the arousal of the sexual couple gradually shift from body focused. In addition, the couple may engage in sex less frequent than when they were newly married. According to Stinson (2009), other concerns such as aging and weight loss become priorities to the couple.

In cases of divorce or separation, the sexual experiences of the left couple is often characterized with fantasy. The couple is always nostalgic of the first moments they experienced sex and how wonderful it felt. According to Frankel, Rachlin and Yip-Bannicq (2012), this is more common when the new partner fails to meet the expectation of their partner.

At old age, the couple often experience less sexual intercourse. The concerns of the couple is often drifted towards their aging and health. However, the few moments of sexual intercourse are often considered healthier and take longer periods. However, the emotional and erotic energy that is common in earlier stages is often experienced less in this stage.

Research and theory

According to Shadbolt (2009), single adults are the most susceptible to masturbatory sex. At this stage, Shadbolt (2009) notes that interventions should focus more on establishing more reliable erections and orgasms in order to develop sexual confidence. Clinical interventions should ensure that the single adult establishes an emotional, sensual and sexual pleasure as important pursuits of the sexual functions of his or her sexuality.

Research shows that in order for a couple to establish a strong emotional and sexual bond when they commit for a long term relationship, it is necessary that they give up earlier practices such as porn and musterbation that were temporarily used to fulfil sexual desires. According to Metz and McCarthy (2010), giving up of these practices contributes to 15% to 20% role in energizing sexual relationships for newly married couple. Metz and McCarthy (2010), also notes the role of both medical and psychological therapy in eliminating sexual problems in order to experience a more human and genuine experience of sex.

One the couple become parents, the wild sexual experience of early marriage often cause the couple to seek more meaningful sexual intimacy. At this stage the couple may seek the assistance of a therapist for advised on how to develop sexual priorities and also come up with more fulfilling sexual styles. In addition, research shows that the attention of couple may shift to family issues causing less frequent sexual experiences. According to Metz and McCarthy (2010), it is important for each person to have their sexual expectations and priorities clear and make this known to the other person.

According to Stinson (2009), it is important to understand the positive values of sex and obtain realistic information about new sexual cognitions when one is divorced or separated. In addition, it is important for the partner to let go the past and build psychosexual skills for a more positive sexual experience. At this stage, Stinson (2009) notes that it is important for the separated couple to seek the assistance of a therapist to cope with the distress of the loss of a partner.

At the older adulthood stage, research shows that the couple may often experience sexual disorders such as orgasmic disorders. In female, the organismic disorder often manifests in the form of persistent delay or in some cases the lack of a normal sexual arousal. This may cause depression and distress. According to Stinson (2009), clinical and none clinical interventions at this stage should focus on cognitive and emotional experiences that should aim and reinstating the couple sexual excitement. Both medical and psychological therapy are important at this stage in order to restore healthy and positive sexual experience for the couple at this stage.


The information is very relevant in assisting people at different stages to establish their sexual priorities and also to cope with the different transitions from each stage. For instance, I would use the information to help single adult shift from masturbation and pornography to establish real, human and fulfilling sexual relationships. In addition, I can advise married couples on how to use medical and psychological interventions to solve sexual disorders such as in orgasm. The information is also relevant in that it I can use it to enable clients understand the sexual experience for each stage of their lives and therefore help them cope with the changes.